You know the people that are the big self-esteem gurus? Don't buy it, don't feel all this telling people how wonderful they are works except to make them feel entitled and become vaguely delusional.
You know those people that believe in strength through adversity, how we really all need to be super strong people who suffer through a lot? Don't buy that either, because that which does not kill you usually leaves you broken and wishing it had.